Welcome. This is me…
Intelligent. Reliable. (from the) Heart. A little stubborn.
Grounded in Flux.
This is what I want you to know.
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My superpowers are my ability to see the human in everyone and to sense what’s felt and put it into words. Even if life is stressful, uncertain or difficult, we can practice returning to calm. In our sessions, I’ll support you to feel and move through your emotions and untangle painful thoughts. I’ll encourage you to keep on going after the things you dream of, even if it takes many years.
Maybe you think you need to keep things bottled up inside. Or maybe you feel as if your emotions are too much. Guess what: they're not, and you're very human. Together we'll unravel your thoughts and feelings. Once you do, you'll feel more connected than ever before.
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Being human is difficult at times. I know - I've felt grief, experienced relationship struggles, gone through career set-backs and felt the rug pulled out from under me. There are times when everything seems to work against us. Our dreams can seem insurmountable. Or where we feel lost, not sure what to do next (while it seems everyone else has it figured out).
When this happens, do not fear this moment. Even if things don’t go the way you thought they would - you can be OK. Slow down and be gentle with yourself. Even if at times, it’s painful and does not go the way you hoped - life is beautiful and will surprise you again. You're right on time, and you have no idea how this moment is a building block for the aliveness still to come.
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Most of us grow up learning to adapt to the environments around us. Part of growing up emotionally means going back to our past and learning to mindfully re-embrace the parts that make us feel alive.
Stepping out of habitual ways of responding to life may feel scary at first, as we let go of old habits and dare to practice new ways of being. For change to be sustainable, we need to take micro-steps, feeling settled in each stage before we can progress to the next. For change to be deep and safe, we also need to be kind & caring towards ourselves every time we slip up or have a rough time, making it easier to return to our present experience with compassion. This is a life-long practice.
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Hollywood may tend to portray romantic relationships as a static marker of success to arrive at, but the truth is a little more complicated.
After the initial surge of romance, love relationships are where we learn more about ourselves by noticing what we and our partner needs and how you each tend to respond when stressed. Once love has set in, attachment bonds make it both harder to leave, and make us feel more vulnerable around our partner. This is where we can start to become more skilled at love: by learning to regulate our emotions or let someone in, expressing our needs constructively, listening to understand, being curious about the history of our own and their behaviours, committing to quality time & new, fun experiences together, de-escalating conflict & respecting boundaries. We will all continue to screw up & have the chance to get better at these skills.
Unlike Hollywood movies, love isn’t about staying together at all costs. Instead, it’s about outgrowing past coping skills, working on yourself and forming a deeply vulnerable, inquisitive bond with another person and yourself as respectfully and safely as possible. And sometimes, doing all of this can still lead to a relationship ending - and that being a healing outcome.
Curious, not just hurting.
You want to understand why certain things keep happening, not just get through today's version of it. Even in the midst of difficulty, some part of you is asking "what's going on here?"
Is this you?
Ready to own your part.
You're willing to look at your own role in recurring experiences — not to blame yourself, but because it's the part you can actually do something about.
Willing to sit with discomfort.
You know that feeling better and longer-term well-being isn't always the same as feeling comfortable right away — and you're willing to sit with that difference.
Done outsourcing the answer.
You're looking for insight and tools, not just someone to tell you what to do or agree that you're right. You want to leave sessions more capable, not more dependent (although some degree of secure attachment to me may be healing as part of your journey!).
This is what working with me looks like.
I work with you individually or together with your partner. What you can expect from me is warmth and compassionate interest at all times, and concrete exercises or frameworks to help you understand (sides of) yourself(ves), sometimes. I'll help you explore who you'd like to become next (because our lives don't always follow a straight line!) I'll also help you gently untangle painful thoughts, coping strategies or feelings. And finally, I’ll help mediate safely, without judgement, and practically between you and your partner. My presence & impact on you tends to be calming, curious & constructive. In therapy-speak: my style is integrative, as gentle and affirming as possible, as directive or practical as requested, informed by neuroscience, depth psychology, shadow work, mindfulness, inner child/parts work, attachment theory and more.
When we work together individually or with your partner, I will NOT force you to commit to a minimum number of sessions or a regular time slot. Seeing a therapist or counsellor shouldn’t feel like signing a contract. Life (and our mood) changes. You can book a session whenever you want to.
I'm also not going to diagnose you or push you into a treatment plan. Instead, I’ll meet you as a guide and compassionate friend. Just one with a few more skills.
These things inform how I show up for you.
I've been doing this work since 2013. Here are some of the skills I’ve learned since then:
I have an ongoing on - off mindfulness and meditation practice & attended a 10-day silent meditation retreat.
I graduated with an MSc. in Psychology & Neuroscience of Mental Health from King's College London.
I’ve trained in Imago Relationship Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Acceptance & Commitment Therapy (ACT), Voice Dialogue & am currently in sexology training - but honestly, let my gut lead the way in sessions.
I’ve lived abroad, speak a few languages and have family across the world, giving me a culturally sensitive, curious & privilege-aware outlook.
I am both rational/scientific and emotional/spiritual - and let both guide me in life and our time together.
I continue to be in therapy / supervision myself for self-reflection and growth. Due to this, I’m intimately familiar with the vulnerability & courage it takes to open up.
I have personal experience with unemployment, grief, anxiety, miscarriage and going through a loving divorce - as well as processing these safely & experiencing joy, meaning and acceptance again.
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