Life Coaching & Counselling for People in Transition

Take a breath. You're here now.

You've done everything you can - but something's not working anymore.

 

You're tired, stressed out or feeling like a failure. Perhaps you've had a burn-out or bouts of depression - or you're just feeling deeply uncertain, not understood by others or yourself. Your confidence, energy and belief in yourself are crumbling by the day.

 

Your loved ones don't get it. Your friends don't understand the cause of your frustration or feelings. You're not even sure if you believe in the things you were previously so committed to anymore. Your mind and inner world are in turmoil - as you're searching for some kind of foothold, to help you take a breather and reflect on next steps.

 

You didn't think you'd be here - ever. And you realize it's time to reach out for support.

 

Maybe you're...

Overwhelmed

You're struggling with fear, anxiety and stress. You know something has to change, but you feel as if you're wading through mud.

At a New Beginning

Whether it's a new job, a new life chapter, or a move abroad, you're feeling vulnerable and frazzled as you try to find yourself anew.

At a Loss

While on the outside, it seems there's nothing to worry about, on the inside, you're feeling low, insecure and confused.

Exhausted

You've reached a point where you want to stop fighting, pushing, trying or doing - and let go, pause, surrender or just be for a while. But you just don't know how. 

While I can never truly know how you feel, I can relate to being here. And while I can't tell you what to do, I can stand along side you as you breathe, reflect and be present with yourself.

What I've learned is that getting out of this place has little to do with beating yourself up or blindly implementing what's worked for others, but might not for you. 

  

You've done nothing wrong to be here - and know that this moment too, won't last. 

Some therapists like to focus on your past. Some coaches like to focus on your future. I (whatever you call me) like to meet you as you are, right now - in all your messiness, fears and questions. Can you allow yourself to slow down, take a breath and reflect? It would be my honour to help you do so.  

 
Here's how:

You fill out the form on the right to book a first session with me. During our 60-min session on Skype or face-to-face in my home, you tell me what's on your mind. I listen, ask supportive questions and offer you a safe & non-judgemental space. It's that simple and there's no ongoing commitment.

The fee for this is €95. As much as I would like to do this for free, this isn't physically or financially viable. 

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Take a breath. And exhale, softening your tension.

If the thought of reaching out seems scary - know that you have nothing to fear; from me, from yourself, or from life. I have no agenda for or expectations of you other than meeting and supporting you as you are, right now.

Book a Session

“A great moment to be heard. Always felt positive and inspired afterwards.”

Anonymous, Journalist, U.K.

“I felt uncertain & overwhelmed. You created a safe space for me to be vulnerable and authentic. Now, I feel calmer and more confident. I feel more resilient too, like I’m strong enough and capable enough to feel my feelings directly.”

Julie Fiandt, Writer & Creativity Coach, U.S.

“Our talks were useful to help me arrange my thoughts and develop a plan going forward. I feel less guilty and as though I’m finally starting to realize my potential.”

Mohamed Eltayeb, M.Phil Student, Ireland

“What my session with Daniëlle did is really show me that I already had the answers to so many of those questions and that my fears and insecurities were clouding my ability to make any decisions.”

Michelle Huizinga, Trainer & Artist, New Zealand

“You have the ability to dig right into my ‘stuck moments’ and get out what is bugging me, without telling me what to do.”

Alexandra Kossowski, HR Professional, Germany

“She really made me realise that nothing is impossible when it comes to following your heart….”

Emilie Reddingius, Yogini, The Netherlands

“You give so much inspiration and certainty. You listen and understand us with the whole soul.”

Julia Hayat, Paramedic, Germany

"Slow down, breathe and notice..."

Questions? Here's some more info.

How do I know you are right for me?

I recommend reaching out for support from someone you feel a click with. My way of meeting you:

  • is emotionally 'healing' (in the sense that all thoughts and feelings are welcome) and safe like counselling,
  • is creative, non-hierarchical and focused on the now like coaching,
  • includes your body's awareness like mindfulness,
  • is open-ended, with you deciding when you're done, like talk therapy,
  • is based on the fact that you are whole (even when you're quirky), don't need to be fixed, saved or pushed and trusts in a deeper wisdom unfolding, like Jungian psychology,
  • is comfortable with change, not knowing, things going or feeling messy, things falling apart, slow growth, deep (or no) emotions and feeling lost or empty,
  • embraces intuitive, spiritual, alternative and holistic views on life.

There are many coaches, counsellors, healers, therapists, teachers (with all kinds of different approaches among them) and people working with them - but equally so: many people in the world who 'go' life alone.

This is my gift to you: you are allowed to decide what you want, now and always - and also, to completely change your mind again tomorrow. Booking a session with me isn't about being stronger or weaker, healthier or less so, better or worse. It's simply about honoring what you need, right now.  

How will sessions with you help me?

Past clients have, since our working relationship:

  • made a career switch from the sciences to the arts & started an Etsy shop,
  • felt all their feelings, noticed their body no longer feels tense & started (slowly, in their own way) to become a coach,
  • quit a job they'd been dreading for years,
  • gone to school to become a paramedic,
  • started to become more accepting of themselves and speak up more at work & home,
  • lost weight and gone back to school to realize their life's dream of becoming a linguist,
  • learned to be more comfortable with the 'windy path' to figuring out what they want,
  • moved to Africa with baby and partner to become a non-profit worker there.

But to be honest - I can't take credit for any of it. What I can take credit for is being a sounding board for a period in their lives. Because here's what most people won't tell you: you don't need me to make a change / do what you really want to do / feel better / become more authentic. Whatever's meant to be will, in good time, find a way.

And yet, in my experience, having a person to reflect with can expand your experience of this moment and what's possible for yourself. Our sessions will be a safe space for you to share what's going on - or for you just to slow down, breathe and connect with your body. It'll all be OK. They will act as a container or anchor of sorts, so that outside of our sessions, you'll feel more connected and supported, no matter what's going on for you.

How do you determine the success of our sessions?

Purely based on your positive experience. This may be anything from one or several of the following: how you feel on the inside, particular actions on the outside or more supportive self-care routines. 

What 'success' looks like is different for everyone, based on who you are, what you want, the phase of life or change you're in and what you're struggling with. I let you be the judge of what you most seek or need.

I am looking for someone to speak in Dutch or German with. Is that possible with you?

Absolutely.

  • We kunnen uiteraard gewoon in het Nederlands spreken tijdens onze sessies. Geef a.u.b. aan bij het boeken van een sessie dat je dit graag in het Nederlands doet.
  • Du kannst natürlich auch gerne auf Deutsch reden. Es könnte sein dass ich, in meine Antworten zu dir, nicht immer die richtige Ausdrücke oder Redewendungen benutze. Wenn du mit jemandem im fehlerlos Deutsch sprechen möchtest, bin ich wahrscheinlich nicht die richtige Person für dich. Wenn du aber die Idee hast, die Chemie zwischen uns könnte stimmen, und es wäre kein Problem für dich manchmal Englische Wörter zu benutzen (oder von mir zu hören), dann bin ich gerne für dich da. Melde bitte auf dein Bookingsformular das du Deutsch reden möchtest.

Do you also work with men?

Absolutely.

I cannot afford hiring you right now. What free resources do you offer?

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